A nursling needs the highly care of the gardener , the suitable soil for growing, the regular watering periods , and the many taking care of precautions, procedures ,and steps . It‘s the same trodden route for mankind. From the very beginning, men have to insist upon the highest standard of bringing –up. Raising their motto;” Stitch in time saves nine “. In fact, we need our grown-ups typically as the English saying goes: “a feather in one’s cap “, which typically means,’ something one can be proud of ’. Proverbs are luckily rich in this area, as another goes: “like father, like son “, which exactly means:” that someone is like his father in some way “. Really this is what every son of Adam wants his kids to be like him in some way.
What is so necessary in following- up our kids? Why should we follow then up? Aren’t they capable creatures to crack their ways on their own? Is our interference in their personal matters of positive effect? Are they at all to be classed as righteous as their elders? A lot of whys that can turn one’s head round. Children, of course, think differently from us. They don’t see the world the way we do. Kids’ moral logic is almost laughably self-centered.”Not fair! Not fair!”They say! Meaning, “I’m getting what I want!” Their moral indignation comes from a real belief that whatever they want is fair, just because they want it! This is not to be rated as a sort of selfishness, in fact this is natural growth in those grown –ups; it’s part of their psychological development. Grown – ups have a right to be boss, and we should do and obey whatever they say. We most often read in them a protest that says: we kids have got our own rights! Parents shouldn’t order us around!
How can we then – the elders- follow those juveniles up? Who in fact is to follow who? If our kids feel that they have their own right to do whatever they want. How then can parents do the following –up? It is really a paradoxical situation.
One of the most fundamental ways to develop children’s respect for themselves and others is to respect them, and expect respect in return. Treating children with respect means treating them like persons. Always remember! Your kid is a human being with rights, not a sort of puppet waiting to be manipulated by you. Treating kids like persons means trying to be fair with them. Being fair means relating to kids at their level and making some allowances for the immaturity of their developmental stage.
It’s a mistake, however, to think that just because we respect kids, they will respect us. In real life, we can notice that our respect to many adults isn’t returned by that same respect, so if adults sometimes aren’t capable of returning respect, then why do we wait for it in kids ? On the contrary, now too many kids are not learning to respect their parents. Their parents keep telling them stories to learn the lesson, but it seems that they don’t listen.
How then can we avoid like such dramas? How can we bring our children on the right track from the very beginning? Do we need to hold on the whip or the cane all the time? How can we make them the dough that is suitable for making a dumpling?
In tracing the bringing-up of kids, man has to be far-sighted in catering for them, irrespective of their sex, age, behavior, and cleverness. Parents shouldn’t hasten their judgments upon noticing transient committed mistakes, they should then, rehearse their decision times and times again before they set it. In that they then, take all that wisdom to drag their kids towards the right road to manhood. This is in my opinion !
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