Teach Your Kid their Limits! (12)

If something is described as being limitless, then it is never at all a something. Everything whatever it is should have boundaries and limits of demarcation. Sudan, for example, has boundaries that make it neighbouring a number of African countries, and each country has limits that demark it. In the same token, children should be set limits to. They should be cornered and bombarded with some dos and don’ts. They shouldn’t be set free to trodden the road to the full.
Setting some limits for your kids is essential, particularly for their moral development. This, of course, allows room for queries. One should say; why is it essential to set them limits? Imagine what it would be like if you grew up in a house where nobody ever never said no. It would be a make-believe world. To every matter the response is ‘yes’. Just imagine! No matter even if the response is ‘nay’. When it comes time to enter your real world, you would be in for a shock. The real world is then full of rules and norms that people have to understand and obey.
One may funnily ask: Why start so soon to teach kids their limits? Hence comes the answer; toddlers always go on doing a tremendous amount of learning. They always take it a once bitten twice shy. When they are dictated what they should do and that what they shouldn’t, they will learn better the lesson. They discover physical laws from the bouncing of a thrown ball. Usually, they busy themselves testing the relations between the variables, and hence come up with what they draw as rules. They acquire and elicit the rules of language when they come to know that everything around is labeled with a name and associated with a sound that one makes. When you make the right sound, people understand what you mean. Moral laws are discovered when they are prohibited or allowed to do something. Usually parents tell their children what they should do or what they shouldn’t do. When you pick up a knife, or climb up on a table, your parents say: “No! Mustn’t do that!”
Kids then , should begin to learn limits or rules at this very age, because it goes right along with all the other kinds of learning they usually do .It is a time of figuring out how their world works .Limits give them one more way to do that .
If you want limits to be effective, be consistent. If you are going to say no, say it every time you see your child doing the action you want to prohibit. If you are not consistent, you will confuse kids. You will frustrate their effort to figure things out.
In teaching limits it is also important to be specific. Don’t just say “No.” State the rule and reason for it. For example: If your toddler pulls the cat’s tail, say: “No! We don’t pull pets’ tails! It hurts!
If you give kids reasons for rules, you will be getting off on the right track as a parent. Reasoning with kids will get to be a habit. Reasoning with your kids, will help them develop their ability to reason about right or wrong. Reasoning with children, shows that they are having a mind that is capable of understanding, and you yourself treat them as thinking beings. But, bear in mind, there is a time to reason and a time not to reason, and you have to be the judge. Your family is your kingdom, and you do know how to rule your kingdom. This is in my opinion.

Dr. Kirya Ahmed

Email: kiryafa7@gmail.com
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