Create a Decent Climate for Communications!

Proverbs, in fact, situated and pictured “home” as a lovely ever known place. They go; “East or west home is best.” “No place like home!”In spite of the wide meaning of home here, home is therefore, by far considered a nice habitat for kids to grow up in. A catch phrase that addresses foreigners to “feel at home”, is meant for the relaxation of this new-comer. He has to appear as if he is a member of the family. He should not have shown shyness or being a reserved. Thus, your home usually shows a sense of relaxation to communicate confidently and freely.
A good flow of communication depends mostly on the climate you avail at home. Are love and respect in the air? Or is the atmosphere foggy and thick with anger, complains, and accusation? Are you a kind of parent who is routinely ordered kids in a formidable way. The one who almost always yells and shouts: “Shut your mouth. “ Get over there!”. “Do what I say!” Such restrictions, most often, cut the strings that connect the communication lines. They draw barriers and obstacles that could not easily be avoided, now and on, and hence systematizes into a sort of unsolvable complications later. Threats like these usually create hesitant and indecisive persons, which result in a deadly tension and depression at the end of the day.
It is not only restrictions and threats that kill the character and charisma of a person, but sarcasm is seen as a penetrating needle that affects enormously the grown-ups. It usually offends, often cuts deeply, and almost never leads to productive dialogues. What a game in being sarcastic! You say something, and you mean quite the contrary. It is really funny! You call someone; “you are a big help”, and your intention is directed to his being a “headache!” typically contrary to what you intend to say.
When communicating with your children, usually try to increase the positive interactions, and decrease the negatives. Stop going blaming, threatening, being sarcastic, stop being ironic, the feeling of being a belittled, naïve criticism, picturing a child as a trivial, and all what upset your grown-ups.
A child, of course, grows in a number of directions. He grows psychologically, socially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically as well. It is supposedly that he has to strike a balance between all these aspects. There should be integration to these sides. A child that grows in parallel directions will fit conveniently in his society. Taken for granted, this full growth can in most cases be achieved via ideal atmosphere of negotiating things, communicating peacefully in a well furnished environment. Children, almost always, like relaxation in communications. They feel secured if their parents treat them wisely.
When your communications heat up, or take a bad turn, try your utmost effort to cool a bit down. Don’t give up so easily, and start shouting at your children. They are really innocent creatures; your sweetie deserve that sweet-talk, from a sweetheart, and nice sweet treatment. So sweetly proceed. Don’t be that pushy, or that aggressive, focus on what helps your kids grow in the right directions, befriend them! Be merciful! Am I right? This is in my opinion.

Dr. Kirya Ahmed

Email: kiryafa7@gmail.com
Dr. Kirya Ahmed
Dr. Kirya Ahmed

Dr. Kirya Ahmed

Email: kiryafa7@gmail.com

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